Ray James

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Reflection at a Time of Loss

When someone we know dies, especially those who are close to us, who hold a special place in our heart – we often feel a sense of loss.  This is a natural part of our grieving process and we should not try to mask any of the feelings and emotions that we have when experiencing …

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Discovering Inner & True Happiness

Happiness is one of the most misunderstood words in our vocabulary. Yet, we search for this intangible state our whole lives. If I only had this or that, if I met the right partner, had a big house, a new car, the job I’ve always wanted – then I would be happy!  However, when we …

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Four Myths About Mindfulness Meditation

Mindfulness meditation has gone mainstream. As more research is published about the benefits of mindfulness meditation, the general public, healthcare organisations, and corporations are seeking ways to incorporate this ancient practice into everyday life.  I have seen a growing interest in Mindfulness within the work that I do as a cognitive psychotherapist and also on …

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The Power of Pausing

We live in a world that operates at an ever increasing pace. If we’re not careful, we can feel like we’re running a race every minute of the day. In the hustle and bustle that many of us experience in our everyday living, it is easy to momentarily forget the poetry of pausing, even if …

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Why Meditate?

Why use Mindfulness Meditation?  Mindfulness meditation is a practice that makes it possible to cultivate and develop certain basic positive human qualities in the same way as other forms of training make it possible to play a musical instrument or acquire any other skill.  It can help us to better recognise and understand the dysfunctional …

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What is Mindfulness?

What is Mindfulness? I am asked this quite a lot, but one person (whose mind seemed to be saying “hurry up, I don’t have time for this”) recently asked me to define mindfulness in just a few words.  They seemed to be in a bit of a rush for an answer so may well have been in …

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Mastering our Mind Talk through Mindful Living

‘Mind how you go’ is something that is often well-meaningly voiced.  Perhaps you have had this said to you when you are leaving a friend’s house or setting off on a journey.  You may have said this to others. Minding how you go makes sound sense, yet ‘Living Mindfully’ is ironically something the average person …

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Calming Anxiety

Managing and calming anxiety is not just a one step solution for most people.  There are a number of methods that can help to reduce / remove anxiety and I am happy to discuss these more in a further blog if readers feel it may be useful.  However, in this posting I am going to share one way …

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